Morning Glory Trail
sun rises with a smile
her hands still agile
We are fortunate my mother still has an agile mind and a healthy body.
As our moms age, we go through denial, look for the person she was, put the remaining pieces together in a way we can deal with.
Many of my clients are elderly women. From Parkinsons, Alzheimers to multiple chronic diseases each makes “mom” more fragile.
The women who tucked us in, helped with homework, fixed the holiday dinners, never forgot a birthday, kept the grandkids for a week are now in a decline.
I notice many caregiver/kids want their parents to return. They get frustrated when their parents forget memories and forget them.
Memory is a complicated machine. We may not be able to form words around our memories but I think they remain to some degree.
When I give my client her knitting needles, her hands retain memory on the mechanics tho her hands may not be strong enough to hold the needles. I put moisturizer on her fingertips each morning and her fingers remember to make little circles on her face. I don’t care if she misses some areas her hands (and mind) are being reminded of what they do.
Patients whose families continue to provide care (it is okay to get outside assistance this is a 24/7 job) seem to have higher function and they are more content in general.
When we are close to the daily care we don’t always see the connection – but I do.
“Hi mom I had a great day at work. How are you?” A sleeping woman wakes up and a big smile covers her face.
“Hey dad how was your day?” She doesn’t see the voice recognition but I do.
Though they cant always remember names or faces they are able to make connections via their memory.
Don’t give up – your mama is still there lighting up inside each time you enter the room.
Do you have good memories of your mama????
How’s your memory?