Love is such a common theme in writing, in poetry, in life- yet so misunderstood. Why?
What is love? Why even test the waters when most likely someone is going to get hurt? Wouldn’t it just be safer to live in a “love” void our entire lives? Maybe. BUT -Our beings have a space or a black hole. This space clamors to be filled with love, acceptance, purpose. There are so many types of love -will one type do?
Greeks Define Love
Look at the Greeks they understood love and it’s depth. No way could one word define love.
They used five words:
Eros – self explanatory (need I say more?)
Storge – affection the love for a family member
Thelema – desire to be revered in achievement (writers understand this one)
Philia – friendship / loyalty
Agape – the almost out of reach sacrificial love (CS Lewis’ definition “Caring regardless of the circumstances”)
Work your way up to the difficult aspects of love
Maybe that’s the thing- we need to look at the many facets of love. A person may not be great at the Eros kind of love, but soars at Philia. Agape may be on the skids, but Storge is at an all time high. Love though elusive wants to be discovered. So maybe start at the easier aspects of love like Philia. Think -first date- Philia. Second date (we’ll see how the Philia goes on the first date). Well if you are only aiming for one date what the heck go for the Eros.
I recently spoke with a widowed family member. You’d think by seventy that a person would have the whole “love thing” down – right?? Well for some I gather it’s like going back to “square one.” Interesting that people made it through with the first or second marriage and at seventy are behaving like they did as teens.
What’s up with that? I guess these people didn’t study enough Greek in school.
I think when I am seventy I am going to stick to Thelema – it seems rather safe
***You might say I have the whole love thing figured out – can you please post a blog and enlighten the rest of us.